Letters to Lior

Trsiomy 18


There are 23 pairs of human chromosomes. In Trisomy 18 (Edwards syndrome), there is an extra chromosome with the 18th pair. Like Trisomy 21 (Down syndrome), Trisomy 18 affects all systems of the body and causes distinct facial features. Trisomy 18 occurs in 1 in 3,000 live births.It is three times more common in girls than boys. Unfortunately, most babies with Trisomy 18 die before birth, so the actual incidence of the disorder may be higher.Infants who survive, experience serious defects and commonly live for short periods of time. Trisomy 18 affects individuals of all ethnic backgrounds. Trisomy 18 severely affects all organ systems of the body.The majority of children who are born with Edward's syndrome do not live past their first year of life. Their average lifespan for half of the children born with this syndrome is less than two months; approximately ninety to ninety-five percent of these children die prior to their first birthday. The five to ten-percent of children who do survive their first year experience severe developmental disabilities. Children who live past their first year require walking support and their ability to learn is limited. Their verbal communication abilities are limited as well, although they are able to respond to comforting and have the ability to learn to smile, recognize and interact with caregivers and others. They can acquire skills such as self-feeding and rolling over.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Two years old :-)



  Morning my precious angel.

Wow ...... every now and then I sort of have to shake my head to say wake up you are dreaming ..... only to realise that it is real. I cant belive that you are already TWO years old. TWO years that we have been able to love and cuddle and cherish you.

We decided not to have a party this year and just spend some quiet quality time at home. We  had some suprise visitors, your aunty Rene and uncle Lion as well as aunty Sophia, which ended up being a lovely day.

You were in such a relaxed happy mode and I could swear you knew that it was your birthday. Not that it was any more special than any other day that we get to have you with us, but because for you and for us as a T18 family it is a HUGE milestone !!

I think maybe the girls hearts were a bit heart broken that we didnt have a party but in time they will learn to understand just what is important in life and I am not saying a party isnt important, but it is also important to have that quality birthday time with you as well. I remember your first birthday party, you were passed around like a little parcel and mommy and daddy and even the girls really didnt get to have that time with you. NOT that I am not happy about it, I am happy that the rest of our family and friends got to spend it with you too and of course mommy also has to learn to share :-)

So we just really spent the day taking turns to cuddle and cherish you and of course taking lots of photos. I mean we have to show the world that you ARE most definately compatible with life :-) So the day wasnt really special in the sense that we had something really big planned - I mean after all that is all just materialistic. It was a special day cause you are here to celebrate it with us. It was special cause we were able to look into your eyes and say "happy birthday baby boy - I love you", something that most take for granted, but not us.

I guess the day started off pretty emotional for mommy - probably more so because you had been a bit niggly for a few nights and we hadnt had much sleep, but most importantly because my heart was filled with so much love, pride and happiness (still is) - all emotions that seem to get the water works going for me, so I spent a good part of the morning letting my tears of happiness out.

It was pretty much a weekend of celebration as well as emotion as it was also grampa's birthday on 28 April. So we made plans to go and spend the day with him on the Friday. He was so glad to see you and just loved to sing to you and play his guitar and mouth piece and you love listening just as much. I decided that I wasnt going to buy grampa something for his birthday that may not get used or be finished within a day, but to rather give him something that has a sentimental value, and what better than framing photos of our precious little angel so that he can look at you whenever he wants to.

Needless to say I got a reaction from grampa that I never expected in a million years. You see my little angel, grampa and mommy have always seemed to have a bit of an estranged relationship but that has most definately changed since you have been in our lives. Anyway, I have never ever seen grampa shed a tear and when he opened his present and he looked at the photo of you with you smiling and your little eyes shining ever so bright , he couldnt help himself but cry and yes well .... that got us all going, especially mommy !! Another magical moment that I will forever keep close to my heart.

Thank you my angel boy -
love you my little munchkin

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